By: Sarah T. McCain
Divorcing with a young child or children can be difficult for all involved, both parents and children. During the divorce or custody process, and after, it’s important for the parents to remember that children need to be allowed to be children. This means that while children may be the entire focus of the disagreement and the arguments, that they should be shielded from those arguments. This is easier said than done; and many parents believe that it is the other parent who is at fault. Many parents unknowingly involve their children in their Denver custody or divorce cases merely by saying things in ear shot of the kids. The impact of divorce or custody battles on your children should be considered with every statement you make to them or near them.
It’s always important to recognize the age of the child(ren) involved in your custody proceedings. As the saying goes, “little ears, big pitchers.” Even children of the younger set are able to pick up the smallest of statements. Making negative comments about the other parent to, or in front of, the kids can have a devastating impact on the case you present to the court. One of the factors the judge is reviewing when hearing your case is the ability of each parent to encourage a relationship between the children and the other parent. Many parents believe that making these negative statements helps their cause in that they believe the minor child will turn against one parent and favor them. However, this is generally not the case and it more often than not creates confusion for the child. It’s important to keep in mind that the minor child loves both of parents, which is what should be encouraged. Continue reading