By: Janette Jordan
New Years 2018 is upon us. It’s that time of year again for reflection and new beginnings. We all have room to grow and improve, especially when you’re attempting to co-parent through a divorce, or even after. The holidays can be an especially difficult time and every person’s situation is different. Poor and negative communication can only make the situation work. Today, there are many ways of communicating, whether via phone, email, text, or a third party parental communication site. Regardless of the media, how things are stated still matters, and venom can also come through in written words. When it comes to communicating with your ex about the kids, here are some things to consider.
Tone & Language: I tell every client that comes through my door, “communicate with the other party as if a judge is looking over your shoulder,” because typically, that’s what will end up happening when you have a dispute that the courts need to resolve. No matter how frustrated you may get, you should avoid using derogatory language, even if the other side “started it first”. Poor parenting behavior is often the first accusation made in contested child custody cases and you want to make sure your communications do not support that. Only you can control how you respond. Continue reading